Since my daughter was born, I have had the privilege of staying at home with her. I don’t mean that I wasn’t working – I had a full time job that I performed from home. This afforded me the opportunity to take my daughter wherever she needed to go, whenever she needed to go anywhere. I dropped her off at school and picked her up and I could go to therapy appointments in the middle of the day if needed. I could be there if she was sick and I could volunteer in her classrooms when required. I even attended field trips with her.
About a month ago, I accepted a position where I am unable to work from home. My whole life changed, and so did hers. We are adjusting nicely. In fact, I think our new reality is forcing my daughter to be more independent and more self-assured.
Which brings me to the point of this blog. I have a newfound respect for all you working mothers who still go to doctors’ appointments, therapy sessions and all the other myriad of interventions that your special child may need. You have, as I found out, put yourselves aside in so many ways. You work to provide a better way of life for your children and often you do it because you need to provide for health insurance options. Reporting to work and then to your “primary jobs” at home means that you are exhausted at the end of the day and have no energy to think about what you need. So, it’s not Mother’s Day today but I am dedicating this blog to all the working mothers who take care of our special children – you are an inspiration!
There is a group of mothers of special children who also happen to be teachers - I have such a deep rooted respect for them. Those teachers are coming to school to teach our special children and going home to take care of their own – truly selfless. Since school started about three weeks ago, it’s been a whirlwind of activity. At back to school night, I met all my daughter’s teachers. My daughter is in team taught classes so that she can get the extra help that she needs at school. Generally, in team taught classrooms there are many children who have special needs that are unique to them. Imagine teaching all these special children while accommodating all their various needs – I don’t really know how this is possible and yet those talented teachers do it every day! So, if you find that your child’s teacher has forgotten about an accommodation that your child needs, take a deep breath, think about her for a moment and then write a nice email to remind her. And in that email, remember to thank her for all that she does not only for your child, but for all children, including hers.
With a grateful heart,