A while back, someone asked me “what do you think your daughter would have you do differently in relation to her condition?” That’s an easy answer, I replied. She would have wanted me to tell her that she has CP earlier than I did. Looking back on the day when I told her, my daughter was relieved in some ways - she now has a “word” for her condition. She was also angry and said things like; “make it go away” and “I don’t want to have CP”.
I sought the assistance of a mental health therapist in order to help my daughter come to terms with her condition. I “lucked out” by finding a therapist who tells it like it is and is supportive at the same time. My daughter and I have both benefitted greatly from our interaction with her therapist and we continue to do so. How does one find a mental health therapist based on a little more than luck? Here are some pointers.
Ask you trusted circle of support
- Look at Psychology Today
- Ask the customer service department of your health plan for a list of in-network providers
- Ask your school phycologists for referral
How do you know the therapist is a good one? Again, here are some pointers.
- Is the therapist licensed?
- What is their approach to treatment? Do they rely on research?
- Are they willing to provide a treatment plan?
And lastly, here are some red flags that should concern you.
- If the therapist’s approach sounds too good to be true, then it probably is
- They promise the world
- They don’t rely on research
Ultimately, seeking therapy for your child is a personal decision that only you can make – like I always say – trust your gut and take cues from your child.